Breaking Free

Limiting Beliefs, Breaking Free and Living Life to the Fullest

The discussion of limiting beliefs seems to be a hot topic these days. Everything I have read suggests we already know what our liming beliefs are. It’s easy for most of us to say we have a fear of rejection or a fear of failure, or we will never lose weight or men only like skinny women. Limiting beliefs, such as these and more, can paralyze us and keep us from living a life true to ourselves. Read More

Be brave. Be courageous.

Your beliefs will keep you trapped in a vicious cycle of imprisonment. Leave you feeling there is no way out, searching, side-to-side, and all around, with no end or exit in sight.

It feels others keep you trapped but that’s not true. It is ourselves. Break free. Read More

Today I Set Myself Free

Ok, actually I set myself free on November 11, 2016. Only a little over a week ago.

The last couple of years have been a trying time for me. My health, my relationships, my drive and motivation have been challenged. It’s never ending…it seems. I know I keep speaking of this but writing is therapeutic and I want to share my struggles should it help someone else.

But each “challenge” is an opportunity to grow and learn, and boy, am I learning. Growing pains such as it is.

I recently hurt someone close to me. Of course it wasn’t intentional. It never is, is it? I didn’t think what I had said and did through and when I done….after the fact, I was sick. Why did I do it? I know better. Oh my goodness, I am the worst person on the planet. Why am I even alive? I don’t deserve to live and many other horrible thoughts went through my mind. I flogged and beat myself up for weeks wishing I was a better person, vowing I would be a better person to the point if I had to suffer in order to help others that would be what I deserved. I deserved to be punished (as I wrote this a saying went through my mind…”we don’t need to catch ourselves on fire to keep another person warm.”) Read More

Hurt People, Hurt People

I’ve been blaming myself this whole time. I believed, I whole heartedly believed, I’m this horrible person.

You have hurt me over the years only because I allowed you to. I believed everything you told me I was. I gave you my power. Today, I’m taking my power back. I see you now with such clarity. Hurt people, hurt people.

Yes, I am guilty too. I have said and done hurtful things to others. Why did I do it? Why do I continue to do it? Because I hurt. Hurt people, hurt people.

I’m doing the best I can as I believe you are. You were there during good times and bad but I have grown into someone you can no longer tolerate. Hurt people, hurt people. Read More

It’s Time

I’ve been working on this blog for weeks now. The words weren’t flowing. When I write, I want my words to come from a real, authentic place and backed by true emotions. I want to connect with you, I want to inspire you to be your real, authentic self and start living life true to you.

My initial thought for this particular blog was my journey of rebuilding my life over the past two years. Of course, we’re socially “required” and in order to live we need to get back to work, not live “at home” and be responsible adults with a real job, a car payment, etc. In my book, I do talk about who says we have to live this way…but I digress…

I realized though, my journey wasn’t about the physical healing, finding a job, buying a new, more practical car and moving into my own apartment. Yes, all of those things are true and needed to happen however, my journey is way beyond the physical healing and “getting back on my feet.”

The last two years have been more about emotionally healing. Yes, my body most certainly needed to heal but emotionally, I was not in a good place. And I haven’t been for a while. My “stuff” keeps coming up and not stopping like a merry go round. Read More

Your Best Self

“From a higher perspective, isn’t your life really more about being your best self than about measuring up to a conventional standard of what you should be?

Conventional or linear standards do not take into account the quantum and vast nature of your being and what you incarnated to achieve this life. Those rigid standards do not factor in your past lives and eternal nature – they are static and unbending. They box you into a niche that does not allow for the limitless variations truly available to you.” – Selacia

In my book, I talk about living life within society’s standards of having a “plan”, living the 9 to 5, the house, the 2.5 kids and white picket fence. Read More

The Spirit of Giving

I’m a contributing blogger for the Adult Congenital Heart Association (ACHA). My blog titled, “The Spirit of Giving” was written for ACHA and published on December 10, 2015.

I’d like to think of myself as a charitable giver. I donate to a handful of charities each year, including ACHA, which is now at the top of my list and will remain there for years to come. Of the organizations I donate to, some are the same year-after-year, and some I swap out—to spread the wealth, if you will.

We may be in constant worry of paying our bills and living expenses to think of someone else. Please consider, for a moment, the science on giving. Research shows that when you give—and give without expectation is the key—a genuine feeling of helping someone else in need, by “law,” you will be repaid tenfold. It may not come back to you in the same manner, but if you look around and pay attention, a friend may buy you lunch, or the car in front of you in the drive-thru will pay for your Starbucks coffee, etc. You will get it back. Read More

Where Is The Light?

I want to hide out
there is no place to go
no where to run
all roads and paths lead to  Read More

Getting Back to Center

It’s been a crazy few weeks. Time is going by so fast, where does the time go?

Many changes are taking place within our lives whether it’s with us directly or those around us. Relationships are changing, family dynamics are changing, everything is changing. I’m looking forward to what is to come though to be quite honest, I feel incredibly stagnant at the moment.

Last month I went to South Lake Tahoe to visit the friends I made during my stent in Alaska last summer. Read More

Living Fearlessly

I’m a contributing blogger for the Adult Congenital Heart Association (ACHA). My blog titled, “Living Fearlessly” was written for ACHA and published on September 23, 2015.

I don’t know about you, but lately I see all over the internet a greater prominence of inspirational cliché’s and feature articles related to overcoming our fears. “Everything you want is on the other side of fear” or “We are held back by fear not limitations” or my personal favorite, “Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.” Read More